Desperately seeking

About 6 months ago, my best friend, my sister from another mr, my female counterpart… left me.
Somewhat selflessly, she has moved over to Sweden to take care of her grandparents who are otherwise, all alone.
Now before you start getting all doe-y eyed and clutching your heart at her kindness, keep this in mind, she left ME behind.
How am I supposed to survive without the best half of my double act?

We met on the first day of university. 

I was early (as usual) and Valentina walked up to me and asked for a light, for her cigarette.

Supposedly I looked at her like a wet dog asking for a cuddle, but quickly remembered I was new, apologized and started a conversation, based on our mutual new-ness. 

It turned out we were on the same course and quickly headed inside to play on the computers before our induction. 

The obligatory Facebook friendship was suggested, and we dutifully stalked each others photos, asking questions and gushing compliments.

V came across a photo of me and my then boyfriend and exclaimed excitedly, “Oh, is that your father?”

one of many spectacular foot-in-mouth comments she would continue to amuse me with throughout our friendship. 

We did everything together. 

The usual… partying, shopping, watching movies, skipping lectures.

The slightly less usual… online fantasy role play games, making youtube comedy videos (no they’re not still up, so please don’t look), mastering Call of Duty… 

The list of our strange behaviour is endless so I wont bore you with the details. 

Needless to say, I’d found my soulmate and we could discuss shoes. 

What more could a girl want? 

(Pretending to be vampires in our gowns, obviously.)

I miss her terribly, and am in need of a substitute best friend. 

If you know somebody who’s kind, funny, sharper than a bee’s behind and slightly strange, please tell them to get in touch. 

I’m quite a good friend, I bake, I have an enormous wardrobe which I’m happy to share (even the Louboutins, if you’re gentle), I’ll take nice photos of you, dance on tables with you and leave enough room in my bed if you ever need to stay over. 

When V finally returns to her rightful home (*ahem* London), we can join forces and become the best trio the world has ever seen! 

Please tell your friends, there’s a sad girl in London town, desperately seeking a soulmate. 


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  • Danielle

    I feel your pain 🙁 I just graduated from college (university) with my best friend of 10 years. I moved back home and she stayed in the city. I miss her SO MUCH. I don’t know how you bear it!

  • Guest

    Dear Rose,

    I discovered your blog at about 11am this morning and have read each post from the most recent, going backwards to this one (alas my eyes wont stay open for much longer!). I like that your honest and witty; your writing style is so endearing. This will be the first lifestyle blog i think i will religiously follow; it makes me think of good food,sun, travel, friendship& romance. Right about now i’m just about ready for the yacht adventure around the greek islands.

    Any way this is a pretty old post but I can relate to it right now and its left me feeling particularly sad. I’ve lived in London for almost 2 years now and before that i was always the new girl. Ive lived in 4 countries and been to 14 schools. over the years i’ve made and lost some amazing friends. and last year i was blessed that i lived with two of my best girlfriends who have been steady in my chaotic country hopping life, we were like three soldiers ready to battle through the next chapter of our lives in the big city together.

    This year i’ve found myself without both of them. M responsibly decided to move back home to save money and C has moved to the netherlands for this incredible job opportunity. Yes, i’m feeling a little left behind, i’m used to being the one who does the leaving, prancing away knowing that my little comfort bubble of friends/sistersfromanothermister would always be here, so I am feeling ABANDONED.

    But although I am feeling some what glum my little red ‘london book’ has been filled with some more places to explore (thanks to you) and i’m checking out flights for a mini euro trip as soon as I am done typing this. I miss adventure. I miss being spontaneous and I miss my partners in crime. BUT…i’m sure its nothing a little Vitamin D cant solve ^^ … O haaiii there easyjet!

    Till then i’m going to make some slutty brownies.
    In LARGE batches

    x Bess

  • tinner

    Having a best friend is one of the most wonderful things in life! I hope she treats you well though Rose. I remember her as such a bully, always mocking and publicly degrading other girls. But people do change!